Today is our official back to school day! Our oldest, Ava (7) , is starting 2nd grade! We stayed up last night a little extra because she was nervous and wanted to talk about ALL the things. Finally around 9:00pm she went to sleep. I wanted to still have some of my "quiet time"... kid free... and proceeded to watch the new season of The Real Housewives of Dallas... (Insert palm to face emoji here!) and went to bed around 10:15pm. I set my alarm for 5:30am and wondered, "Will I really wake up that early?" Then I made the decision, yes, because I am someone who does what I truly want to, not what "feels" good in that moment.
So here I am, awake an hour before I have to wake the kids, towels are in the washing machine, and my protein shake is at my desk and I turn on my daily video from Bob Proctor. He is talking about decision making. He went on to talk about how so many of us want to do something, but then the objection comes up, "my husband/wife doesn't want me to". Something clicked for me because I hear this quite a lot. It got me thinking, when we get married we don't vow that now that person gets to make our decisions for us for the rest of our life... It's not OWNERship, it's REALTIONship.
In my marriage, we respect each other and are EQUAL partners in this relationship. I don't care which one makes more money, it all goes into the same account and it's ours. Thats the deal. Of course we want to make big decisions together, but if there is something I want to do and I have a big desire, Ryan will definitely not tell me I can't, and in return, I give him the same support. I'm not his owner, or mother, I'm his wife and partner, and biggest supporter!
Have you done this? Let other people dictate your choices? Whose life is it then? or who are you living for? If you really think about it... is it your kids, your parents, your boss? Who are you truly obligated to? I want to challenge you to stop living out of obligation to others and make YOUR OWN decisions for YOUR LIFE! Are you in??
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